Tips for giving a Wedding Speech
Preparing a Wedding speech can be nerve-wracking, especially if you aren't keen on public speaking. Don't let the nerves get the best of you. Take things one step at a time, and don't overthink it. In this blog post, we will discuss some keys to preparing and delivering a memorable wedding speech. Let's dive right in!
Pre-planning is key to any good Speech. Write down your speech on index cards, or on your phone. If you are struggling to begin you might want to start by writing down key phrases or bullet points to organize your thoughts. It can also be helpful to create an outline, with an introduction, main body, and conclusion. use what feels more natural and comfortable for you.
It's a good idea to avoid drinking too much alcohol before it's time to deliver your speech. While you may be tempted to down some "liquid courage" to calm your nerves, drinking too much can impair your sense of timing, cognition, and can cause you to slur or forget your words.
Good microphone technique is essential for capturing clear audio for your speech. Ensure first that your microphone is turned on by checking with your DJ or MC before hand. Most professional microphones have a power switch of some sort and may have a light that turns on when the microphone is active. Most MCs conduct a sound check before using microphones at events, so trust them to handle the volume and technical stuff. If your not sure, talk to the MC ahead of your speech to ask how the mic works, and what indicates that it is on and active. If it's still unclear, before you begin, it's okay to say "testing" or "mic check" just to be certain you're live.
Position the microphone about 6 inches from your mouth, about one closed fist between you and the head of the mic. Remember that the volume is directly related to how loud you are speaking, but also how far away the mic is from the source, ie: your mouth. Maintain the 6 inch distance, and you should eliminate problems.
Pay attention to the introduction. In most cases, the MC or Host will introduce you by name, and often by role. Often you'll hear speakers start with "for those of you who don't know me I'm <insert name here>". There is typically no need to introduce yourself once the MC has already done so. If the MC doesn't mention your role (ie: Best Man; Sister of the Bride; etc.), you may want to lead with that, otherwise, skip the redundant introduction.
Next considering sharing when you met the newlyweds, or go right into a fond memory. When sharing your story, consider the emotion behind it - was it funny? Was it meaningful? As you’re telling your story, look to see if the newlyweds are enjoying it and recall some of the details that make it unique. This will help to make the story even more special and will ensure that the newlyweds remember it fondly. Try not to overly embarrass, or to expose personal information they may not want everyone to know. It should go without saying, but avoid talking about any of their ex-partners, or other touchy subjects.
When you are writing or delivering your wedding speech, it is important to remember not to overdo it. A wedding speech should be heartfelt and sincere, but it should not be overly long or overly emotional. Keep your speech concise, so that your audience can appreciate your words without feeling overwhelmed. Try to focus on a few key points, rather than trying to include every detail about the newlyweds. You can bullet point the key points in your notes if it helps. Additionally, make sure to practice your speech beforehand so that you know what to expect when you are delivering it. Finally, try to keep your language appropriate for the occasion. Your wedding speech should be respectful and appropriate for the audience.
Closing your wedding speech is just as important as the opening. Be sure to thank guests, the wedding party, and the families. Express your gratitude for the wonderful memories you’ve shared, and wish the couple a lifetime of happiness. Take a moment to express your love for the newlyweds, and if you'd like, end with a memorable quotation or toast and "Congratulations!". If you are planning to deliver a toast, be sure you bring your drink with you to the microphone.
Finally, whatever you do, do not "drop the mic". While this may seem like a hip or trendy way to end your speech, professional microphones are not cheap. Please respect the equipment as if it were your own. If you want to make a dramatic exit, consider using props or having the DJ cue a special song when you finish speaking.
In conclusion, don't let fear of public speaking prevent you from preparing a wedding speech. Take it one step at a time and have confidence in yourself that you can deliver a speech that will be meaningful and cherished. With a bit of practice, preparation and courage, you will be ready to make that special wedding day even more memorable.